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Getting engaged
Getting engaged is one of the most exciting things ever - but it can also be one of the scariest. Here are some things to think about before saying yes!
Am I ready?
No one wants to be the stinker who hesitates when their boy drops to one knee, but if you aren’t ready to get married, it’s ok! Love evolves over time, and giving yourselves a chance to find your groove as a couple, and to decide if this is someone you could truly be with for life, is one of the wisest things you could ever do.
Signs you’ve got a good thing going on:
- You love him (duh!)
- You feel safe and like you can both truly be yourselves
- You complement each other and are able to compromise when you disagree
Right guy, wrong time.
There are many reasons it’s good to give a relationship some time before getting engaged, one of the main ones being: it gives you a chance to get to know someone properly! Having the chance to last out a few hard times, as well as good, can only benefit your relationship in the long run.
Tip: It’s a good idea to talk about how you feel about things like money, kids or ‘the future’ before tying the knot!
Everyone’s different.
Everyone’s different - so don’t be discouraged if all your friends are getting married but you’re still single, or if you don’t think you want to get married but everyone’s telling you you should! There’s way less pressure to get married young (or to get married at all!), today than there was even 20 years ago.
That means you’re free to do whatever’s right for you, when you’re ready!
Remember: Marriage is for life. Why rush it?
Article by Sarah Illingworth. Who is Sarah? Find out here and meet the rest of the 24/7 Girl team too. And don’t forget to check out Sarah’s blog here!
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When I was 18 I would’ve gladly married the boy I had been seeing for 3.5years as I was “madly in love”. However, people change during those late teenage years due to career and body changes. I can say all of my school friends including myself who had a long term relationship so young have all broken up with those boys (except for one couple who have waited 7 years to get married). I think if your love and in love you should definitely wait until your twenties, besides waiting a few years is nothing if you’re going to spend the rest of your days with him. Posted by catherine.m20 "on" 03/23 "at"03:19 PM |
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A lot of people I know have been getting engaged recently, and they are relatively young (between 18-22). My father always told me, however, that the biggest decisions in life never have to be rushed. In fact, if you try to make something happen for the sake of it, or are impatient, it probably won’t work out. Studies have shown that after about 18 months, the initial “love” which can be a form of infatuation, tends to fade a little. Love is as much of a choice and how you act toward someone than a warm fuzzy feeling. If you reach this time in your relationship, a year or two years down the track, and you still choose to love them despite disagreements or hard times you have both been through (and of course, the warm fuzzy feelings don’t hurt either!), then it’s obviously a great relationship and marriage is definitely something to seriously consider. I think there is also a danger in trying to box love and engagements into a general time period. Some people say late teens is too young to know if it’s forever, and others say there’s no hope for those after 30. I would strongly disagree with both. I think it depends on the individuals and how they work as a couple. Some young people just know when it’s right, and have been happily married for years. Others, prefer to wait a little while the relationship develops and they focus on their careers or education before an engagement. Even in your 30s, 40s and beyond it’s not a bleak outloook. There are plenty of older people who get engaged for the first time at that age, and perhaps with their life experience they have more security and stability to enter this phase of life. Engagements are a wonderful thing: a sign of committment to a forever-relationship. While they’re not something to be rushed, if you know it’s the one, don’t hold back and regret that in hindsight. Posted by Remy "on" 03/02 "at"12:23 PM |
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I guess age doesnt really matter due to.. some young ppl can mature faster than others. Though I totally agree with the article above .. by giving enough ‘time’ for a couple to go through some rough stages and some good. Dont let anyone; especially media and also friends tell you how you should live your life..like, the need to rush being married. Posted by VeeVee "on" 12/08 "at"12:46 AM |
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theres a really neat vid on youtube of a guy proposing in disney land check it out if you get a chance its so sweet Posted by jak74 "on" 08/15 "at"09:26 PM |
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Great now we cant actually see anyones advice. Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/13 "at"09:34 PM |
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spamming much. Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/13 "at"09:33 PM |
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Not ready to be engaged yet, bit too young. But only time will tell. Posted by POWERBALLIN25 "on" 08/12 "at"10:32 PM |
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Make sure its the right guy who treats you good!!  Posted by Bee "on" 08/11 "at"08:00 PM |
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I don’t know I’m waiting for the right guy .. Posted by Impy "on" 08/09 "at"09:07 PM |
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Hmmm its a hrd one aye. My little sister just got engaged. Age: 16.5yrs. Cant say I was over impressed to be honest. But then they have been together since she was 14, so hey I could be wrong. I wish them the best of luck either way. And congrats and support of course, what else can ya do? Posted by tkennard "on" 08/09 "at"02:34 PM |
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I know its different for everyone, But when you see 17 year olds getting engaged (argggh) and you know they wont go through with it, How old should you be? age range? Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/08 "at"08:42 PM |
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