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Posted: 09 December 2011 11:39 AM   Ignore ]   [ # 16 ]  
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Eek, just found this post and I’ve been to scared to take all your advice :/  I’m nearly 18 now and I still haven’t kissed a guy, had a boyfriend, held hands with a guy, done anything with a guy!!!
And the guy who asked me out still likes me, and we talk lots and I like him but as soon as he starts flirting with me I’m suddenly put off!  Sometimes I wonder whether I just like him cus I know he cares about me and likes me for who I am, but I’m so confused!  It’s been going on too long!
I really think I have intimacy problems or something, I don’t know exactly what but it’s horrible.  I really just don’t wanna waste my first kiss, first boyfriend etc on someone who doesn’t mean something to me.  And so I think this guy does mean something to me and then I change my mind as soon as it’s possible we could go out or something, and I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!
Is it really weird that I haven’t had a boyfriend when I’m this old!?!?  Please help me!

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Posted: 09 December 2011 12:35 PM   Ignore ]   [ # 17 ]  
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You are not weird at all!!!  You are awesome!!!  I wish more girls/women had the self-respect and forethought to not rush into stuff with guys.  You are right, it will all happen in time.  In a time frame that you decide, that you will not regret and that will help you bypass much of the heartache young women so often end up having.  If you believe you have intimacy issues then it wouldn’t be a bad idea to talk to someone about that, school counselor, a parent, even ask yourself, dig a bit into your reasoning.  Talk to this guy about your feelings too so he understands where your coming from.  It sounds like he does mean something to you or you wouldn’t have stayed friends so long and if he cares so much for you surely discussing these issues with him could help you both figure out your feelings.  Also one thing I might add is that for most of us there is more than one ‘first kiss’ and they’re all exciting.  I applaud you for loving yourself and respecting yourself enough to wait for someone special, too few of us do.
I have a friend who at thirty is in her first ever relationship, she is still a virgin and she is one of the most happy, confident people I know and she is having a lot of fun enjoying this new stage in her life.  Don’t compare yourself to others, you have to do what feels right for you.  Best of luck.  xxx
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