I broke up with my ex 4 years ago and i cant count how many times weve contacted eachother and ended up drinking together and hooking up, at first i tried to get him back because i loved him, i still do now. but then i realised he was just wanting sex with no strings, i find it so hard to say no to him and even though he just recently slept with a girl who had been a close friend not long after we slept together i cant seem to stop myself from wanting him, even though i know its wrong, does anyone know how i can stop myself from wanting him and wanting to contact him or replying to his txts???

51793 - 22 January 2010 12:33 AM

I broke up with my ex 4 years ago and i cant count how many times weve contacted eachother and ended up drinking together and hooking up, at first i tried to get him back because i loved him, i still do now. but then i realised he was just wanting sex with no strings, i find it so hard to say no to him and even though he just recently slept with a girl who had been a close friend not long after we slept together i cant seem to stop myself from wanting him, even though i know its wrong, does anyone know how i can stop myself from wanting him and wanting to contact him or replying to his txts???

I need to be free!!! Away from the temptation

just ignore him.. as if he doesn’t exist. dnt talk to him or txt him or do anythin dat means you gettin tempted to go bak. if he just wants to hang out so he can have sex wit you at the endof it then stuff him. he’s using you

You keep going back because its famialar territory, its easier said than done to sometimes ignore them, try and go out for a night with the girls and find someone new

x.kingdom.gal.x - 22 January 2010 10:57 AM

just ignore him.. as if he doesn’t exist. dnt talk to him or txt him or do anythin dat means you gettin tempted to go bak. if he just wants to hang out so he can have sex wit you at the endof it then stuff him. he’s using you

Great advise soon he’ll see that youre more than a booty call.

delete his number stop any thing that will tempt u and go out with ur mates and just have a fun time

In all honesty girlfriend you should have learnt by now that you are just a BOOTY CALL! So why stress over something that just is not going to work. You can either except that A- you just wanna have fun without no strings attached and enjoy casual SAFE sex with your ex or B- kick that brother to the curb because all he wants to do is play! Whatever you decide to do it is up to you. I mean really is the sex with your ex really that great?? If you are looking for a long term steady relationship with this guy its just not going to happen. Get yourself a new sim card and forget his number. Every time you feel tempted to call or reply to his texts just think about how many other girls he’s sending that same text to…

All the best

It’s hard to let go, but if you don’t, you won’t meet anyone else - and if you do, he will just get in the way.
Plan a long break away with the girls, have a wild (but safe time) and get him out of your system.
He makes you feel needed. And everyone wants to feel needed and loved - so thats why you keep going back.
Be strong, then you won’t need him.

mm mm mm , Hey Chick , This guy is nothing but auser , you said it yourself all he want `s is sex , with nau strings . Dropkick that fool and forget about him , iknau it `s not easy , believe me iknau !! but iguess it comes down to respect - respect for yourself ! in his eyes he probably thinks of you as af**k buddy . Nau good . iwould suggest getting anew sim , imean you don ‘t knau how many other girls he `s texting up ey . But yeah up tu you . ihope this helps(=

OMG don’t be a doormat :( you are way better then this. Try and hang out with other people, having fun, letting go of the user

It’s so hard, isn’t it? Letting go of what’s comfortable and what keeps coming back to reassure you. He will keep returning to reassure you but the sad fact is that he is a bit of a loser and is coming back to you to reassure himself. And you take him back because it makes you feel dominant (for a short while) and wanted. It’s a bad cycle and very hard to break. Even celebrities and pop stars do exactly the same - eh?
I don’t have the answer yet I know you will bounce out of this soon. Shortly you will experience a clarifying moment. It will make you feel free and empowered to SAY NO.

Grow some balls and respect and say NO!!!!!!! and mean it.  You only go back because it is familure and safe.  You say you still love him, sit down and be honest and remind yourself just why you broke up in the first place.  He is only using you between other females and when he gets the urge and he knows you will come running no matter what. 

Also please dont call the poster above me, as you dont know who he is.

oh sweetie i went through the same thing and it made me feel cheap and dirty. learn to say no, dont drink with him dont even hangout with him and it will get better

oh this is tricky!!
i had a similar situation with my ex as well and it didnt turn out too good. i’ve now told him too stop texting me cos he just uses me for hooking up every time we meet up and it made me feel used and angry. I had mixed feelings when it started but now i know its not right and have stopped meeting up so there’s no temptation. hopefully this will work for you as well hun. xx

Trust me I knw wat u mean. I’ve bn there doen that except it wasnt sex. . If he’s having a thing with other girls then he’s definatly just using u. I’d tell him firmly that u reali just want to be m8’s and i dont mean mating. If he doesnt take that for an answer dont talk to him ever again, he’s not worth your time. .