Ok so im basically dating that guy that your paretns hope their daughter NEVER brings home. Ever. since we have been going out hes quit smoking and drinking but hes still taking things like acid!!! >:/ and i really want him to quit but i dont no weather i should ask him to because hes already stopped so many other things and i dont want to be that girl friend who is trying to change her bf into somethign else and such.. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO (help please n.n” )

Yeh you should, my boyfriend still smokes weed and cigeretts and im trying really hard to make him stop because its really gross has anyone got any tips for helping me make him quit? He also gets super paranoid and protective when he trys to quit and thats just worse…. =]
amber x

Definitely raise the issue. If he loves you he’ll respect your need to talk about it with him.  People who are forced to quit addictions may begin to hide their use making it even harder for you to know what extent their problem is at so,  tell him how much you love him and that you don’t want him to get injured or in trouble.  Be respectful and carry your message with love, don’t put him down but firmly let him know that this is not what you want for your life and that if things don’t change you may have to move on for the sake of your own happiness.  What does he get out of using? Is it just a way to avoid facing reality or is there peer pressure involved?  I wish you the best and hope you can figure out how to move forward with this.  Let us know what you do and how it works out, you may inspire someone else who has the same problem. Girl-power to ya.

Bobannie - 23 September 2011 01:42 PM

Definitely raise the issue. If he loves you he’ll respect your need to talk about it with him.  People who are forced to quit addictions may begin to hide their use making it even harder for you to know what extent their problem is at so,  tell him how much you love him and that you don’t want him to get injured or in trouble.  Be respectful and carry your message with love, don’t put him down but firmly let him know that this is not what you want for your life and that if things don’t change you may have to move on for the sake of your own happiness.  What does he get out of using? Is it just a way to avoid facing reality or is there peer pressure involved?  I wish you the best and hope you can figure out how to move forward with this.  Let us know what you do and how it works out, you may inspire someone else who has the same problem. Girl-power to ya.

Totally agree, he must know that it is illegal etc… all the consequences and all that, so if I were you I would definitely bring it up and see what he thinks about. Explain to him properly and like the others said, if he loves you, he’ll respect your opinion. Overall, it is for the better, for him and you! Just see how it goes!

Hope this helped xx

MAKE HIM QUIT OR YOU’LL DUMP HIM SIMPLE AS THAT CAUSE IF YOU EVER WANT TO HAVE KIDS HE’S GOING TO HAVE TO QUIT AND IF HE WONT THEN YOU DONT WANT TO BE HAVING KIDS WITH HIM

”  What does he get out of using? Is it just a way to avoid facing reality or is there peer pressure involved”

i think hes using it as a way to avoid facing stuff basically. cheers guys defintly helps!!!!!!!!!

I totally agree with the others, it has to stop.
Ask him if he would give it up for you. If he does, then hes worth your time.
If not, your wasting your time sister, if he can’t do something for you, he isn’t worth it.
Good luck xxx

Oh man, seriously talk to him about it. also he probs does it with his bad influence friends, theres a bad atmosphere etc. I definately would hate it. It sucks worrying all the time and feeling horrible, you should probably talk about it or youll feel yuck all the time.

I understand how you feel. My boyfriend does stuff that is similar.
It has been hard to get him to stop and i hate the nagging! You keep telling him how you feel and at the end of the day, just point out how much you love him, the importance your relationship and etc..

At the end of the day, the issue he will soon understand well you hope . keep bringing it up!

Unfortunately you can’t make him quit. He has to want to of his own reasonings. Talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel and the side effects of LSD and hopefully he will realize. Good luck xx

you can not dismiss it because it’s all talk nicely so that everything became more clear