i recently found out that my crush (and first love) has feelings for me and he went into an open relationship for me but i dont know if i want to do anything with him if he still has a girlfriend even if hes allowed to.

even though his girlfriend has said it is, its still not right for him to do that. personally i don’t think you should do anything with him, his girlfriend may get mad or upset.

his girlfriend is such a lovely person too and i dont want her to feel bad but i have liked this guy for so long, what if the opportunity doesnt come along again?

Someone might get hurt :( Think about if you were the one who was his girlfriend, and how that would feel? and is he really such a good guy if that’s what he wants to do? did he think that it might hurt either you or his girlfriend. If he likes you enough he should respect you as a person?
But I am sure it doesn’t make it any easier :( hope you figure it out!
x

It’d be interesting to ask his girlfriend if she actually said it’s okay for him to see other people.
I just don’t believe it, if he honestly had feelings for you, wouldn’t he end his relationship to see you instead?  He sounds like a lying lothario to me.  Be careful girl

I personally dont think its right. I feel like you are going to get your feelings hurt because at the end of the day hes not yours, hes still the other girls. However if he was to break up with this girl for you whats to say he wont do the same to you if he finds someone he likes better. I would stay clear

I wouldn’t get involved as you have genuine feelings for this guy and if you do get attached to him and he chooses his girl-friend in the end you are only going to get hurt, he’s giving you false hope. Tell him straight up if he wants to “get” with you he must be in a committed relationship with you and not just a one off fling.

If he cared about you he wouldn’t still be in another relationship!!  He’s not worth your time, you deserve someone who wants you and ONLY you, not someone else on the side :S

thanks for the advice girlies its still a really hard decision to make, but i completely agree with the saying that i dont want to do anything unless we’re in a relationship. And i would hate to be his girlfriend because if i was her i would be incredibly hurt.

I don’t think you should do it.. i’m sorry to say but she sounds like a bit of a sleaze thats just tryna get some.. if she really wanted to be with you he would dump his gf and date you.. it may sound harsh but its true

Nope. No way it could ever turn out good.

This sounds like a bad idea, its up to you in the end, but if you really like this guy then don’t just get into some fling with him. Either wait for something real with him, or move on. If he likes you enough he will dump this girl and ask you out.

he sounds so genuine when we are talking though :L but i do feel like im just a thing on the side sometimes especially since he told me if we did he probably wouldnt tell anyone , i think that may be just cause hes 17 and im 15 but i dont know.

Yeaaaaaahr i think open relationships are very pointless whats the pont in even being with that person if you can just go around sleeping with who ever you want ... wheres the comitment and the passon in that . Not trying to scare you off , but if he really likes you then maybe he would break off his open relationship with this other girl and be single. Because even though this other girl might say shes allgoods with it ,, is she really what giirl wants her guy sleeping around with other girls ,,, it would make me so mad and upset ... so just think about that before you do something ., as tempting it may be to just do things with him sweetie (:

Girrrrrl!

Any man that doesn’t want to settle for you…

doesn’t deserve you!

No matter what your heart is saying right now. That is for right this moment… You’ll be saving your heart from more unnecessary pain further down the line.

You deserve better.. someone who sees you as their one and ONLY

xoxo

so i uh did stuff with him. .  . and didnt start regretting it until now. :L im thinking of talking to him about it after his exams because i dont want him to do badly because of me. . . i kinda do feel like a bit on the side but ive always pushed it out of my mind because he made me feel special