Im so confused i dont know what to do. i broke up with him because we were getting to distracted with each other losing focus on school and spending time with family and friends because we were so close and always together. Hes the only boy ive loved like that but everyone unhappy and making things diffucult prevented me from being with him. i feel so bad i left him for the happiness of everyone else because now im unhappy and hes unhappy and i want to have him back but i dont know how because hes so upset? HELP ME !!!

On one hand I’m thinking ‘Hey, awesome you for putting your education and family first’.  These are the first things to suffer when puppy love starts barking it’s head off.  Love, the intoxicant that it is, can be a massive distraction from education/sporting pursuits and also family responsibilities.  When you look at the reasons you broke things off, you have nothing to feel guilty about there as you did what you thought was the best at the time.  Personally I think you must be very strong and full of love to have made such a hard decision that in reality benefits numerous people even though it hurts you and your boy for now.  One suggestion I have may sound OTT but it could help.  If you and your boy want to get back together, have a family meeting maybe.  Ask your parents if it’s okay to have him and his parents over for tea ( or just Mums ) to talk about how you could make time for all you need to do and ask these adults for their opinions and how they might be able to help you both continue to pursue your educational interests while still making time for each other.  Explain to them that you made a decision based on what you thought was best for all but you are unhappy with the outcome and would like to try to find a resolution that makes you happy too.  I hope you find a way to figure this out. 

Have you explained to him all this? Make sure he understands and maybe you could get back together later on in life. If he really loves you, he’d stick around for you! But like Bobannie said, you did it for the right reasons, so don’t get yourself down for it!

Hope you go ok! You always have the girls at 24/7 for you!

thankyou for your girls advice now its a new year and i think i should change go a little off edge take risks and do what you two have advised if i want to get anywhere with this. thankyou both for your encouragement and sweet comments that i will remember xxxxxx

If you don’t let go of solid ground you cannot learn to fly.
Happy New Year.  Happy Flying