Theres this guy that i like. He wanted us to be friends with benefits. So we hooked up more than once. Then he told me his girlfriend was expecting to have a baby. Now im broken hearted but i still wanna be with him. What should i do?

That’s not friends with benefits, it’s an ‘affair’, you being ‘the other woman’ and is so not cool. 
Keep away, it’s the best thing for all concerned.
Put yourself in his girlfriends position, you’d feel massively crappy if you knew the truth.
I think you’ve been a victim of the common cad my girl, he’s used you, got what he wanted and he’s off.  Of course you’re broken hearted, you’ve been made a fool of in a way, he tricked you into wanting to take a huge risk, you took it and he’s dumped on you. 
If it’s meant to be he’ll leave his pregnant girlfriend but that’s probably not likely. 
Can you find out if his GF really is pregnant?  If she is, work on healing your heart and mosey on, if she isn’t, he lied to you and doesn’t deserve your time.  Be more careful in future who you hook up with to avoid this kind of heartache.  I know I’ve kind of railed against this guy here but he’s not alone in his mistake, you hurt now because you made a bad decision, I hope you learn from it.  Sorry if I sound like a big meanie, I don’t mean to.  Chin up, you’ll be okay soon.   

Yeah his girlfriend isnt pregnant she just got a pregnancy test and found out the truth but he didnt lie to me he just told me she might be having a baby but she didnt. But i feel like he still likes me because the other day i called him and he just talked to me for a little while and he acted nicely but he said he just wanted to be friends. But im so confused does he really wanna be friends? Or use me??? I dont know but im young and i’ve got alot to learn for myself :/

If he is going to stay with his girlfriend you need to cut the contact as you’re just going to get a very sore heart and cry lots of tears for a guy who isn’t even yours.  Of course he likes you, you make him feel like ‘the big man’ because he’s got a girl already but others want him too.  It’s a big ego boost to have people wanting you but since he’s already taken he shouldn’t be encouraging you like he obviously is.  Some people keep someone close so they have a ‘back-up’ person if they have a relationship breakdown, it’s always nice to have a shoulder to cry on but it’s better in some peoples minds to move straight on to another person because they want their ex to see and get jealous or think that the they’re over it when in reality they move on to a new relationship without healing from the last one as so many people are afraid to cry, afraid to admit their feelings changed, afraid to admit something ‘failed’ or they messed up because they couldn’t make it work so they move on thinking “I’ll get over this quick” but if you don’t go through that period of healing and thinking of what mistakes were made and what you would do different next time you are very likely to repeat them and make more.  I think from the little info you’ve given that this guy wants to have you in the wings as his ‘second choice’.  Don’t be a ‘second choice girl’ girl, wait for the guy that picks you as his number one!  He’s out there for you but the more time and consideration you waste on this guy who is already taken the longer it will be before you meet your true love.  You need to end the uncertainty so you can live and be happy.  Mosey on into the sunset like a gunslinger girl, be confident and don’t look back.  You’re worth it. 

I agree with Bobannie. You were just his bit on the side, sorry to say you won’t be more than that. Even if you were, imagine being in a relationship with him now knowing that he was willing to cheat on her with you, what would stop him from doing it to you with someone else? He sounds like a scumbag. Stay away.

Yeah i know thanks for the advice guys but its going to take me a while to let go of him cause he is always leading me on and as much as i try to stay away from him theres always this urge to go back to him because last time he texted my friend saying oh tell Tiffany “aka” ME that he’s sorry but his girlfriend doesnt want him talking to me but then he hit me up saying wanna blow me and i was like NO because i can only imagine how his girl is feeling now that she knows he talks to other people…

His girlfriend has obviously figured something out or been given a heads up by someone else.  Just imagine the things he may have told his friends about you too!  They’ll all think you’re a s!ut probably.  You may not be his only side girl either so if you’ve slept with him you should go get tests done to check you haven’t gotten anything from him.  He’ll use you until you stop letting him and if you continue to allow yourself to be abused this way your self worth will plummet and you may end up thinking you only deserve losers so will let anybody treat you like sh!t and you can’t say “that won’t happen to me” because it’s happening to you right now.  This is not what love is.  Stop thinking this guy is so great, he’s obviously not, read what you’ve written!  What would you say to your friend or sister if this guy was treating them this way?  You’d tell her to steer clear wouldn’t you?  It’s hard to cut the ties that bind sometimes but if you don’t cut them they may choke you.  Delete his number/s, don’t respond to him and then swim free in the sea of strength these actions will provide you.  Stay strong girl and stay away from him, you’ll thank yourself in the future.  Chin up

Well he is older than me because im 13 and he’s 16 but he wouldnt tell anyone because then it would make him look like the creep. And he’s the one who had told me not to tell anyone. But i am still a virgin and wouldnt even think about having sex, but he would. Like last time he told me that he was going to break up with his girlfriend for me if i slept with him, but i am too smart to believe his lies so i turned him down. But you really dont understand he lives right across the street from me so its INORMOUSLY hard to stay away from him. And everytime i see his face i just get so happy. But i really dont know what to do so i just come on here to get information from you people to think of suggestions for me…

Bobannie i need your advice please answer me back

Hey girl, soz for not being there for you yesterday.  Man, it must be hard if he’s right across the road.  Seeing your pic though it’s no wonder he keeps trying to hit you up, you’re a beautiful girl.  Good, good, good girl for not giving in to his promises of a relationship in exchange for sex, this is just a ploy to get you to do what he wants.  This guy annoys me so much, how dare he do this to you.  He’s like a cat and you’re his mouse, he’ll play with you for a while but he will get bored eventually and you’ll be the one that ends up scarred.  You look like an awesome, happy, fun girl and I’d hate you to spend too much time upset over this guy who seems to just want to use you, you look like the kind of girl that would stick up for her mates no matter what and someone who cares deeply about people around you being happy so you need to put some of that consideration into yourself and realise you’re worth so much more than what this guy could ever offer.  Can you get a new sim card for your phone?  So he can’t contact you,  anything to break the ties aye.  He must have one of those movie star smiles to keep melting your heart but when you look behind most of those faces to the reality of their lives, caddish men are usually just 15 year old boys in an adults body, still following their base animal instincts to reproduce as often as possible or have fun trying.  This guy, no matter what he tells you, is not thinking of love, romance and a future together.  The extent of his thought process may be as simple as ‘get her naked and do things to her’ which is so not what you want to remember.  Please, stick to your guns and keep away from him, know that there are gentlemen out there, one’s that will treat you with the respect you deserve.  Ask your Mum or Dad what qualities they would like to see in a boyfriend for you and I’ll bet it bears little resemblance to this fella across the road.  I hope this helps girl, keep strong, you can and will get over him.  Big smiles and huggies   xxx

Thank you Bobannie. I appreciate this so much. I mean im so done with being used for someone who really just wants to basically have sex with me or use me. I also would like to know if you can give me a little more advice on how to ignore him cause’ like i said he does live right across the street from me.

And if you saw him you’d maybe think he’s attractive too but yeah. Anyways he just has me catching all these types of feelings for him and i feel like he does like me a little bit but i really dont know im just confused. :/ #givemeadvice ASAP i need you girl.

Wow that must be so hard for you being right across the street from him. Bobannie is right with everything she has said though, a relationship in exchange for sex! does he think you are that silly? that’s an insult on your intelligence hun you’re better than that, and you are better than being the other woman too. I hope you’re doing okay

It sounds like he does like you some but it also sounds like he has no intention of ever acting honourably on those feelings which is very different.  It’s hard to know what to say, we all have different ways of healing and moving forward.  I’m a wordslinger, writing helps me get things out, maybe you could try writing something.  You can do this from different angles, write a letter to the guy saying how you feel and how his behaviour has caused you confusion and distress - best not to send but it can help you see upon reflection how deep your feelings were and like pulling a scab off and putting dettol straight in it, it’s raw now but as you wash over it, you’ll heal from the inside out with time.  You could write a letter to yourself from the perspective of your best friend, what would s/he say to help get you through this?  I’m guessing you don’t really have anyone to talk to about it?  Are you worried about someone telling your parents?  What else??  Crying, have you done that?  I love crying, it’s awesome, you always feel better afterward.  I like to think of sad tears as booboo transportation devices, every tear you shed rolls down your cheek with the weight of some of your sadness in it and when you wipe it away a little bit of your worry goes with it.  Just to complete the picture, happy tears are filled with sunshine and jollyness evaporating on your face sealing the happy in . Could you go stay with someone for a few days?  A friend or Aunt maybe, get you away from home for a few days so you can stop worrying for a bit about seeing this guy.  Plan some stuff with friends at the very least, keep busy and when all else fails, give yourself a wicked manicure .  Keep being strong, seriously it won’t be long before you’re all good.  Here’s a mission to tie up some time - Check out the video for Lonely Boy by The Black Keys and dance the whole video, I collapse in laughter every time. 

Aww thank you all so much. I’ll deff keep you posted if you wanna know whats going on with me and this boy and also ill let you know if i got over him. Or if i didn’t get over him ill deff let you know about that too! But now i guess im going to dance to that song

LMAO the video made me smile but i’m still not over him :/. I really need to just probably right a letter to him… What do you think i should do? I feel like telling him that if he wants to be with me then he’ll have to break up with his girlfriend… HMU NOWW I NEED YOU GIRLIE :D