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Posted: 23 January 2012 08:33 PM   Ignore ]  
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Hey all, I know this sounds repetitive but is it weird that I’m almost 18 and I have never really liked a guy.  I’ve never been kissed, had a boyfriend etc but it’s not that which worries me.  It’s the fact that I’ve never liked a guy enough to want to do those things with him.  I’ve had the opportunity, I’ve been asked out by guys etc but I’ve never liked a guy enough to say yes.  Sure, I’ve thought a guy is attractive and had “crushes” but I’ve never fallen for a guy for more than a few weeks.  Is there something wrong with me?  Or am I just a bit behing everyone with the whole liking people thing? D:

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Posted: 24 January 2012 08:30 AM   Ignore ]   [ # 1 ]  
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Let me ask you this, would you rather have liked a bunch of people and have had things not work out?  It’s not weird, you’re doing what I wish more girls/women would do, waiting for that real feeling, not just seeing a guy that likes you but one you actually like too.  High five cheese .  If you’ve never been kissed or had a bf it’s no biggie, I think too many people start off too young in relationships anyway.  We think everyone out there is doing stuff we’re not but in reality a lot of girls are in a similar position and it’s not a bad thing at all.  How much focus would you have put into school if you’d had the distractions of boys in your life?  Heartache isn’t something your average teenager should be dealing with in my opinion, you’ve got your whole adult life to (hopefully not often) experience that.  There’s a lot of young guys and girls who get into little relationships because they don’t want their friends to think they’re lame or ‘don’t know what to do’ with the opposite sex.  Girls may do things before they’re actually ready as they think a guy will stop liking them otherwise and guys may try to have sex young as some kind of proof of manhood to their mates.  You don’t want your experiences to be like this eh, you want to get swept off your feet, it happens for sure, it happened to me.  Unless you have an issue with people getting close to you I’m sure all will be well.  I think you’re absolutely, unequivocally normal.  Self-respect will always be sexier than being easy.  No great white sharks or slippery eels, the fishes in the sea for you are more likely to be precious carp or salmon, to take an analogy quite a lot further than usual. cheese  When the right person for you comes along you’ll know it.  It’ll happen.  smile

 

Posted: 24 January 2012 09:53 AM   Ignore ]   [ # 2 ]  
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maybe you just havent found the right guy for you yet

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Posted: 24 January 2012 04:55 PM   Ignore ]   [ # 3 ]  
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Wow, thanks so much guys!  That helps a lot, I like your fish analogy Bobannie!!  It makes me feel better having that reassurance from you smile  I’m definitely not worried about being close to people etc, it just has to be the right person :D Thanks so much!!!

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Posted: 25 January 2012 02:17 PM   Ignore ]   [ # 4 ]  
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No worries girl cheese .  Glad to have helped.  I love adding my own flavour to analogies, I find it’s a great way to explain things to people sometimes. 
I like you’re signature, it reminds me of a wee tenet I try to live by -

Live like you’ll die tomorrow, farm like you’ll live forever.  LOL

 

   
 
 

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