this guy ive been meeting up with is very hot and we’re both into each other but we’ve decided to first get too know each other before we go any further.
im only year nine and hes year ten making him 15 and me 13. i recently heard he’s done ‘it’ with two chicks at my school and i didn’t think he was that type of guy. my other mate said hes really frontal and pushy but sweet. i dont know what too think cos everytime we’re around each other he acts completely different. i dont know what too think of him?? do i like him?? i’m sure i do? but then the stuff the goes around puts me off. should i get into a relationship with this older guy or not??

first off, do you trust theese two gals who told you this stuff…just the other wk at my skl, some horrible turd in my year spread some horrible rumours like this about two of my good friends, consequently getting them into huge truble… maybe, if you are close enough friends with him, you should tell him what youve heard, or if you are too shy, talk personally about it to someone you know you can trust.
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sam

Girls can be quite nasty…and it turns out that guys arent quite that cunning…so ask him hel most likely tell you the truth. also have you thought that maybe these girls like him and are jealous?? or maybe hes lead them on but all he wanted was friends…if hes a nice guy to you does it really matter what the rumours are??

I completely agree with girls above. Maybe the girls ARE jealous? Chances are they are. But older guy relationships aren’t that easy.. and sometimes they push you into things they’re ready for but your not. And plus, he’s 15. it’s not legal for him to sleep around with chicks anyway. It’s probably a rumor..

I’d just keep getting to know the guy if I was you. Maybe he did do it with those girls but you don’t know the stories and what happened. If he seems nice and not into that stuff when he’s around you then maybe he isn’t like that. Or maybe he used to be like that but he has changed? Just be careful though because I know a guy who is really sweet and everything and wouldn’t seem like the type but he just plays with girls and makes them fall in love with him and then uses them. Guys like thatare creeps. But you don’t know maybe he’s a really nice genuine guy. If you’re really worried about it then you should talk to him about it. Just remember, whatever happens don’t do anything that you don’t want to do or are unsure about, k

just straight up ask him if he’s slept with those girls, or even just ask him if he’s slept with anyone. if he’s a really great guy go out with him, otherwise I suggest you go out with guys your own age for a few years, ‘cause older guys when you’re that young don’t understand when you’re not ready for something ‘cause they’ve been ready for a while. so you’re more likely to be pressured into something. my bf is 2 yrs older then me, and that’s caused some complications in the past but he’s absolutely great

thanks so much guys, this will certainly help for sure.
i think i will continue getting too know him and just see where it takes us. but i just found out that this chick at my school hates me and is angry at me for hanging out with him. she even confronted me and asked if i went out with him and i said no so she said have you done anything with him? and i said no. i mean who does she think she is. and i remember at the start of the year when my mate was going out with him (shes not really that close friend) she started a huge fight with her cos she thinks he is hers, i reckon shes just jealous like you guys said. man he does seeem like a player. i just am pretty confused for what too do?

Maybe you should just try and drop it and not go out with him if he’s a player? Coz he’ll probably just turn out to be trouble and will get you stressed out and worried all the time and it would just be a big hassle =/

If the guy really means that much to you, go ahead. But if you’re just experimenting don’t do it. It’s not worth the amount of fights and enemies you could make.

hi.u need to get to know this guy a bit better,guys are very good at playing mind games,they will be all charming and caring so they can draw u in,u mite ask him bout the rumours and he will deni them even if they were true becos if he tells u he did sleep with those other girls he will think ur goin to run a mile..he could be trying to b all nice towards u so u will like him then he will try make the moves on you..u need to b aware of all signs and just take it slow,if u get to know him properly you will soon find out if thats his plan.