SO the other night I was staying at my real close mates (guy) house. Hes a couple years older then me, we have been friends since I was born. His mum is best friends with my parents. Anyway, we were playing monopoly until like 12. We went to separate rooms to sleep when got a text message from him. I got up and walked to his room. We hung out on his bed for a bit watching family guy. Then it started to get weird. He was rubbing my back and moving his hands around under my top. He kept kissing my head. I didn’t know what to say. Hes never acted like that before. I felt like I wasnt quite there, like it was a dream I was going to wake up from soon. It was really hot so I took my shirt off to my singlet, he took his top off. We were both still in jeans. He kept rubbing my back. And kissing me on my hair and forehead. His hands were hovering around my bra, it wasn’t bad but it was different. At about 4 I realised what was happening and left, I didn’t want it to get to far. This happened a few days ago and I don’t know what to do. I’m really confused. Please help me!

I’m really not sure but I think you might want to talk to him which will be awkward as hell I know but like it’s better than pretending that nothing happened and you don’t know where it will go. It might have been a one time thing or hes really into you. Just so you know family friends are the best way to ‘experience’ that kind of stuff without really being in a relationship because youve known eachother for a long time. Hope this helped x

He also might really like you and by you taking your shirt off to your singlet might be a sign for him even though it really isn’t in like my and probably your opinion he might have seen that as a green light go ahead. but mmm just talk to him and if you liked it then thats good I guess. Plus it also like if you like him too because I have a family friend I kind of like but then hes like a brother to me because I’ve known him forever.

THanks. The thing is I dont know if I liked it. I realise that sounds really stupid but I honestly dont. I just felt shocked more then anything. We had always wrestled and stuff, sometimes it got a bit heated but nothing like this.

K so you didn’t enjoy it? maybe i guess you could give him a sign you dont like it like possibly pretend to have a boyfriend (if you don’t already) just so he gets the whole ‘I’m not really into to you’ and I know that sounds mean but you could accidently on purpose text him like ‘yea last night was amazing, you mean everything to me and I love you’ and then like a second later text him ‘sorry wrong number, it was for someone else’

hahahahahahahahahaha. THats what I was thinking of doing, pretending I have a boyfriend. I just dont want to be mean…im going to ask him why he did it. I have nothing to lose anyway

nah don’t pretend ae, that’s gonna #### things up if he realizes you don’t. just ask him about it ae it’s butterflies and ####-in-your-pants awkward, but if you want to still be friends with him it has to happen sometime. lying will just ruin your friendship

True, but theres no way he will find out! We have no friends in common, he lives like 2 hours away from me and goes to a different school. I just dont know =/

if i was you, i’d just be straight forward and ask him what that was about. and like what the others said i know it’ll be awkward but you cant just not talk about it, that’ll just make things alot worse.

Im trying. Its not helping that he hasnt talked to me in a week since it has happened =/ Thank you guys so much for helping. I feel a little better about the whole thing

hello,im no expert but i think u leaving the room was a good idea.u were uncomftable and u shouldnt do nething you dont want to..i think u need to be honest with him,but in a nice way,ask him about what happend and why he did that,tell him how it made u feel and he should understand if hes a good friend.that way at least you have been honest and got it off your chest how he chooses to react to it is his issue.

pamgrl - 11 July 2010 04:29 PM

hello,im no expert but i think u leaving the room was a good idea.u were uncomftable and u shouldnt do nething you dont want to..i think u need to be honest with him,but in a nice way,ask him about what happend and why he did that,tell him how it made u feel and he should understand if hes a good friend.that way at least you have been honest and got it off your chest how he chooses to react to it is his issue.

totally agree!