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Q. “I’m 14 years old and I’m fat. I hate it at school - people call me fat and other names. All my friends I hang out with are skinny and I feel left out because they’re skinny and I’m fat. Sometimes we sit there and they all of sudden talk about how disgusting fat people are, not remembering I’m there. I don’t want to lose my friendship with them, so I need some advice on how to lose weight before summer and get a nice skinny body.”
A. Ok, first up - I’m so sorry people are mean to you about your weight, and that your friends are being so thoughtless! Saying stuff like that is really uncool, especially if it’s making you feel like you need to lose weight to be friends with them. Honestly, I reckon next time they start bagging out ‘fat’ people you should say something. It might be a little scary, but it’ll feel so good to stand up for yourself - and you’ll also be standing up for the other people those girls are hurting with their words. Tell them to quit being mean and, if you feel like you can, tell them how they talk makes you feel bad about yourself.
It’s hard to know if you are actually overweight without knowing your weight and height, but making a conscious effort to eat well and exercise regularly is a good place to start if you want to get to a healthy weight. I just think wanting to be look after your body should be your reason, not wanting to be skinny so you’ll fit in!
Our Health & Fitness section has heaps of tips on healthy eating and exercise to help you get started!
Article by Sarah Illingworth. Who is Sarah? Find out here and meet the rest of the 24/7 Girl team too. And don’t forget to check out Sarah’s blog here!
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Don’t worry! When you get older all your classmates will mature and not be so judgemental. You’ll eventually find friends who love you for who you are. Just hang in there… Posted by Nicole Lee "on" 05/14 "at"03:53 PM |
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Woah, thats really mean! Some people have medical conditions or have to take medications which make them big so it’s not always the persons fault if they are big or not! If they were my friends and they said all that stuff i would tell them to stop being so judgmental and hurtful! Posted by Jess B "on" 03/22 "at"11:15 AM |
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Try Fitness First! They have a great program called FFIT. Fitness.First.Initiative.Teens. It’s for teenagers 14-18 years old and it’s free for the entire school holidays! You get to use all there gym equipment and go to any group class you like! It’s so much fun and keeps me occupied during the holidays. Make sure you try zumba! It’s so much fun and i’m hooked on it. Try and eat a little helthier as well. The weight is sure to fall off. As for your friends, don’t listen to a thing they say.Once you start losing weight i’m sure everybody will be looking at you and thinking nothing but nice thoughts! Good Luck! Posted by dollygirl "on" 10/07 "at"06:46 PM |
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Hahaha, it’s almost funny..I had this excat same thing happen to me when I was younger…So I just started working out, and my family started eating better, and now i feel almost good in my skin.But yeah girl tell them that you are beautiful the way that you are, and that you are you:) Be your self girl friend, have confidence, and don’t let being overweight stop you from living your life:) Posted by iluvjesusSOmuch "on" 08/15 "at"04:48 PM |
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i honestly felt the exact same way. but you should never let your friends say that about you. i know it’s difficult to hear, but you don’t need friends like that. trust me. & if you are really determined to lose weight, never believe it’s not possible. i lost 30 pounds one summer, just working out every morning with my best friend & eating less. it can happen. since then i’ve lost 20 more pounds, i feel amazing. but, keep your head up, things always get better. Posted by casey10 "on" 08/06 "at"12:15 PM |
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one, it’s kind of upsetting knowing that your friends don’t even take it into consideration that they talk about that stuff around you. it’s just mean. :/ two, don’t lsiten to the people at school. I know what it feels like to be called names, but sometimes you just have to ignore it. Don’t change because you want to be like your friends. Just be yourself, and show people that they can’t hurt you with their name calling. Posted by BrittanyJean614 "on" 06/25 "at"07:53 AM |
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We all know that children can be mean sometimes. We wish it didn’t happen, but unfortunately it does. If you are not happy with yourself, then make a positive change. Maybe start doing a pamphlet run, where you get exercise and also make some money while doing it! And have a look at your diet and see what things you can change. But if you feel like you have to be a certain size to hang out with with your so called friends, then they are the wrong people to be hanging around with. A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be…. Posted by Tina29 "on" 06/02 "at"09:04 PM |
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It’s sad when people feel the need to change to fit in with their friends when friends should really accept you for who you are! there’s nothing wrong with being curvy. that’s how most women are built. Keep your chin up and eat healthy because you wanna stay healthy (that’s the main thing). As lady gaga said “I’m beautiful in my way ‘cause God makes no mistakes. I’m on the right track baby I was born this way!” Be happy with who you are Embrace who you are. Everyone’s beautiful and deserves to be treated fairly and be included without being discriminated. Posted by MelissaW "on" 05/23 "at"08:19 PM |
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Sorry, I said Marilyn Monroe was a size 1! I meant 14 haha . Posted by ILR "on" 05/23 "at"08:06 PM |
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Honestly, don’t listen to people who put you down or call you names. No one has the right to judge you like that. I definitely agree with the advice given by 247 Girl that you should stand up to your opponents. While it’s hard, I think you’ll garner some respect by doing it - and you don’t need to hear their rude comments. What matters is how you feel about yourself - not what a few other people might say.
Most people don’t fit the strange Hollywood ideal of being super-stick-thin because it’s an unnatural image. The most improtant thing is to be healthy - because that’s attractive. In fact, a number of thin girls may look healthy, but aren’t because they don’t do much exercise or strength training. Personally, I’m tall and thin because that’s just the shape I was born with, but the important thing for me is not how thin I am but how healthy I am. Also, curves are hot! I can say that I wish I was a little curvier at times. Marilyn Monroe was a size 1 and was a major sex symbol. Kim Kardashian is really curvy and is the modenr equivalent - so embrace what you have But at the same time, keep up a healthy routine. If you exercise regularly, eat healthy food and keep your self-esteem up you’ll stay at a healthy weight. You’ll be healthy physically, mentally and emotionally - and that’s far more attractive than being all skin and bones. Stay in there and hope you feel better! Posted by ILR "on" 05/23 "at"07:18 PM |
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People that tell you your fat dont listen to them their just stuck up i used to get bullied by this boy when i was 7 he called me fat and stuff and what i didnt get was that he was fatter then me and it stoped happening and i got over it because i didnt care. just who cares what other people think about you. your opinion matters the most no one else. Posted by Renee__xx "on" 05/17 "at"08:11 PM |
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You know it dosent madder what other people think at all,I have been big most of my life, and been skinny, but the one thing i did notice about being skinny was people were only friends with me because i was skinny, But my true friends love me no madder what i look like.and love love the fact that i dont care about what people think,were all differet and i wont have it any other way, I belive as long as you are happy with your self then dont worry about what other people say or do,There lifes must be dam boring to have to look at yours if there not friends and make up stuff.remmber its not whats one the outside its what’s on the inside that madder’s and that say is true.forget about them and live life for you.and talk to your friends about how you feel they may not relise that you way Posted by fay "on" 05/08 "at"04:46 PM |
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Maybe your friends don’t see you are fat like you think you are. Maybe you should ask the one your closest too to help motivate you to loose some weight. Posted by 37182 "on" 05/04 "at"01:15 AM |
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If her friends say stuff like that around her then how can she think they are her friends? they are obviously saying it to try to hint to her or put her down. You are beautiful no matter what your dress size! Posted by suniasunshine "on" 04/21 "at"03:50 PM |
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She should really stand up for herself. Respect is something every one deserves regardless of your size. I don’t think people realize how much some of us, go out of our way just to earn it. Don’t hate or discriminate Posted by Kooki "on" 03/12 "at"02:27 PM |
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you are who you are big or small Posted by shozzy "on" 03/05 "at"10:30 AM |
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she should stand up for herself and tell them what she thinks ! Posted by chocolate time x "on" 03/03 "at"08:35 PM |
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Awww thats mean her friends talk like that infront of her Posted by Danya "on" 03/03 "at"06:04 PM |
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This is so sad! Her friends should not be talking about overweight people like this!!! It makes me so mad! Do they know what it feels like to be overweight? Probably not. Posted by curlychick94 "on" 03/03 "at"09:08 AM |
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