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Love vs. Career
It really is unavoidable: if you want to do well at anything in life, you have to put time and energy into it! This applies to both your career and any relationship you might be in. Needless to say, it can make it difficult to juggle both. A supportive partner is a great asset, but it can be hard to really chase something if you have to constantly consider how your choices affect someone else.
Quandry
If you want to make the most of the career opportunities available to you, but feel like you can’t because of the relationship you’re in, it might be time to do some soul searching about what you truly want out of life.
Every scenario’s different, but if the situation sounds familiar, ask yourself the following:
- Do I love this person?
- Are they good for me?
- Where do I see myself in two years if I stay with them?
- Where do I see myself in two years if I don’t?
And, the decider:
- Which outcome do I like the look of most?
A relationship can either help or hinder you in achieving your career goals; if you’re worried your relationship is holding you back, you have to confront what that means for you. Trust me, it’s better to explore it now than wonder later!
If you’re meant to be together, you’ll know. And if you truly love each other you’ll work out a way to do both.
I want both!
You can have both! You need to be honest with yourself and your partner about where you’re at though. A: because by trying to have both you might end up with neither, and B: because honesty will allow you to work out ways to keep your relationship healthy, even if work’s taking up a lot of your time.
Here are some ways to maintain a healthy relationship, AND have a successful career:
Know what you want. If you want to be free to travel the world or work all night, you have to be honest about it. Your partner might not want to be with someone who isn’t available, and it’s only fair to give them the choice. Scary, but true!
Establish clear boundaries around what you want to spend your time on so both you and your partner know what you will and won’t compromise.
Don’t completely disappear! No matter how important your career is, it’s NEVER so important that you can’t take time out. Not just to hang out with your partner, but to have time to yourself. Working too hard only leads to burn out anyway!
Both career and relationships form a huge part of our identity. It’s easy to let either one of those things define who we are in an unhealthy way. A strong sense of self will help you balance your career and the relationship you’re in.
Be honest with yourself
You can scrawl lists of pros and cons about either path until your fingers peel, but at the end of the day you have to follow your heart. It’s cheesy, it’s my opinion, but listening to instinct is the only way you can know you’ve made the right choice.
Because the only choice that’s ‘right’ is the one that’s right for you.
What do you think? Anyone had relationship vs career issues??! Comment below!
Article by Sarah Illingworth - check our her New York Life blog here!
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I think that if you love someone you would be able to work out a balance between each of your careers and come up with a compromise. If you are unable to it doesn’t mean that you didn’t love each other but maybe you just moved in different directions and it is time to let go. Posted by BekaAshley "on" 02/11 "at"03:55 PM |
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My boyfriend and I discuss things like this all the time, he is so understanding and takes time to give advice and listen, he will go out of his way to make an effort to see me if he’s busy. He is 18 and has a really good full time job at the New Zealand Defence Force, while I’m in my last year at college and planning to go to university. He supports me and is always there with me even when i make wrong decisions he’s always there to guide me Posted by POWERBALLIN25 "on" 08/12 "at"10:51 PM |
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i think you can have love and career, its all about understanding, love, honesty,trust, friendship and finding a balance. Posted by tkennard "on" 08/10 "at"06:28 PM |
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I had it all, We worked together and Loved each other, so it was easy, now im not working at all, and a bit worried about the rest. =S Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/08 "at"08:27 PM |
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I’m worried about what will happen to me and my boyfriend when we finish school. I want to go to uni straight away in christchurch but he wants to work for a year first. He said that he would go with me but his passion is hunting and fishing. we are in central otago at the moment and theres great oppurtunities for him here… i dont want to take him away from that. Posted by Lozzy "on" 08/03 "at"10:26 PM |
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yeah but it is sport vs guy it iss hard because we have only been going out for a month and he really really cares about me and knows that sport comes frist and he comes a very close second even though my friend thinks it is a bad idea but we seem to work it Posted by smileandtheworldsimeswithyou "on" 07/29 "at"08:36 PM |
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