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Ego boost!
She’s Out Of My League follows the budding relationship between Kirk, an awkard, geeky lookin’ dude who works at the airport, and Molly - a drop dead gorgeous bombshell who Kirk’s buddy Stainer rates a ‘hard 10’ on his scale of one to hot. Kirk gets a five.
Stainer is certain Molly’s totally out of Kirk’s league, but to Molly the only thing holding their relationship back is Kirk’s lack of self confidence.
Kirk almost misses out on the girl of his dreams because he doesn’t think he deserves her. It’s a moral we’ve all heard before, but it’s a good reminder: often, we’re the only ones who don’t think we’re good enough!
The quandry
For some reason many of us struggle to approve of ourselves. It might have something to do with the fact that, growing up, a lot of us learn that it’s wrong to be too confident, that being sure of ourselves is a negative thing.
Whether it comes from family or society, we learn to equate confidence with arrogance, when in reality they’re two very different things. Trying to be humble, we downplay our strong points - but all this does is limit us.
Marianne Williamson hit it on the head when she wrote the following:
“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you…As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
It’s hard to fulfill your potential when you don’t believe in yourself. And when we don’t fulfill our potential, we aren’t the only ones who miss out!
Value yourself and others will too
The point isn’t to become a braggaholic who can’t stop talking about themselves, but to develop a sense of self confidence that will enable you to fulfill your potential in every area of your life. Here are some other reasons it’s GOOD to value yourself!
- If you value yourself other people will too.
- Talking negatively about yourself creates a negative environment.
- By exercising and developing your strengths you make life better for the people you share it with.
When asked if he’s ever dated someone who was out of his league, Jay Baruchel (the guy who plays Kirk), answered, “I s’pose to other people - yeah, I’ve definitely gone out with girls that were out of my league, but I guess the way I got them is I never thought that they were out of my league.”
Again: sometimes we’re the only ones who don’t think we’re good enough. Don’t let insecurity hold you back!
Article by Sarah Illingworth - check out her New York Life blog here!
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that quote was inspirational! my boyfriend thinks low of himself even though i’m always telling him that it’s only him that thinks he’s nothing great but he doesn’t listen so i am going to tell him all of this! thanks! Posted by Cellyfone1996 "on" 02/02 "at"10:52 PM |
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I’ll def be looking up Marianne Williamson for a bit of inspiration in the future. I’ve not previously heard of her and will be passing her words on to a few friends. I used the old ‘fake it til you make it’ technique in regards to confidence in my younger years. I just pretended to have more confidence than I actually did and one day I realised it was me being confident, no put on. That might sound ridiculous to some but it helped me, after all sometimes it feels like your the only one who can fix a problem yourself. Just to clarify too, I was putting on a confident face and living up to it, I wasn’t being fake with people. Thanks Sarah for a great article.  Posted by Bobannie "on" 11/27 "at"10:02 AM |
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real good advice . but i likED this guy ages ago but thought he was outta my leage ., nothing happened nor is it going to. but this wouldve been good back then. thanks  Posted by Honeyrimz "on" 10/06 "at"01:24 PM |
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You never want to try boost your ego in a negative manner. I’ve tried many times to boost myself up and it all came crumbling back down. You have to be enthusiastic and confident about yourself, you have to be yourself and you have to fight for what you want in life. Sometimes it can be hard if your the odd one out in a group and you feel like the world is turning on you, but think about yourself for a second, think of all your positive qualities, your achievable goals and all the little special things that make you, YOU!! Add them all together and have the positive ego, don’t be neagtive and boast about others, spread rumours to feel good and bring others down, at the end of the day you only bring yourself down further. Trust me I know! Turn your life back up the right way and believe in yourself and everything you want to be. Positive changing makes a positive you, loving yourself means love to share and a positive ego means a really good friend and family member!! Posted by Julz xx "on" 05/16 "at"11:07 AM |
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i’ve watched this movie, so cute. Going to remember this quote “If you value yourself other people will too.” Truthful as! Posted by POWERBALLIN25 "on" 08/13 "at"01:14 AM |
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It is a wonderful quote aye Posted by tkennard "on" 08/10 "at"06:00 PM |
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i loved this movie! Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/08 "at"09:07 PM |
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That Marianne Williamson quote is fantastic, I have it up on my desk at work Posted by Nancy09 "on" 03/12 "at"10:12 AM |
Best of the rest
