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Fighting with the parentals
I’m in a huge conflict with my parents at the moment. I’m 15 and I know they are trying to do what they think is best for me but the actions they have taken have really upset me and stressed me out. I’m getting really depressed over it and they gave me no option but to break up with my boyfriend who means the world to me. I love him and I want him back but my parents have made having a relationship with him too difficult. He still loves me and we have agreed to wait until i’m older to go out again. But I don’t know what to do now. Is that the right thing to do? And how do I make peace with my parents again?
It can be really difficult when you have a disagreement with your parents, after all they’re the people who are providing for you and they’re the reason you’re here! But even though you appreciate all they’re doing for you it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll always appreciate their point of view. It’s completely normal to fight with your parents, especially at your age. You’re never going to see eye-to-eye on everything and I can assure you this isn’t going to be the last time you fight over a boy.
Boys do come and go
It’s important to keep in mind that boys do come and go (no matter how serious it feels) but your family will be by your side forever. On top of this, it’s important that you respect your parents boundaries when you’re living in their house. My Dad used to joke that “He who makes the gold, makes the rules!”
No rush
This guy sounds like a sweetie, and if he’s willing to wait until you’re both older then I think you should take him up on his offer!! There’s nothing wrong with putting in a bit of time before you get into a serious relationship – and getting to know him better without the label of “boyfriend” attached will only make any relationship you two have in the future a better one. Good luck! Sarah xx
Got a question for Sarah? We’ve all got ultra-personal stuff going on in our lives – but chances are, plenty of others have been through the same thing! If you’ve got a question or a problem, just ask. We’ll do our best to hook you up with realistic advice! (Check out previous questions for more helpful tips).
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weird enough, parents can sometimes be right. my parents adviced me not to go out with a guy… after a month we broke up and i realisepad my parents were right. even tho u maybe annoyed with your parents, theyll be a reason which u probably wont realise till afterwards Posted by anner03 "on" 02/23 "at"04:12 PM |
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If you both really love each other as much as you say you do, you should both be able to wait. Your parents are only doing what they think is best, it may seem unfair now but in the long run you will probably thank them for it. Posted by BekaAshley "on" 02/11 "at"04:20 PM |
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oh my gosh im like pretty much the same as Breestryingtowin ! cept my parents think they kno everything and so dont listen to what i have to say .. trust is such a big thing to have so i think the best way to gain their trust is by opening up to them . ive never had a good relationship with my parents , maybe when i was a toddler , but at the start of last year i began to talk to my mum about the stuff that was happening in my life , boys , friends , school etc and found that she trusted me more and allowd me to do more , but i havent ever been like that with my dad . On new years i went town without telling my parents an my dad seemed to think i was deceiving them so he grounded me , and said im never ever allowd to stay the night at my friends house ever again , cos he thinks shes a bad influence . now she doesnt want to hang out with me cos she thinks she has to watch her back all the time . So yeah , what im getting at is , if you want your parents to understand you and allow you to do more things then just start talking to them more treating them like friends more than parents . Xo Posted by kelsiyum! "on" 01/12 "at"12:14 PM |
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I know exactly how you feel, it did drive me to the point of depression which is still partialy there and they don’t know this. I often feel as though they don’t trust me.. i’m not even allowed to walk to school even though it’s literally down the road…. it annoys my friends too because, we can’t hang out properly… i’ve tried to tell mum so many times but, she doesn’t listen and just says i’m being selfish… i’ve only got 3 more years of it so i’m going to try ignore it.. I personally think you need to sit them down and list your issues… Good Luck! xoxo Posted by Breestryingtowin "on" 09/12 "at"12:33 PM |
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Gah - your story’s the exact same as mine! It sucks, I know. :/ good luck x Posted by 19189 "on" 09/01 "at"05:27 PM |
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i treated my parents terrible growing up, i didnt realise how much they did for me till i had my own children. I sometimes wish i could turn back the clock and do more for them love them soo much Posted by jak74 "on" 08/15 "at"09:30 PM |
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And then i met another guy, we fell in love and this time it was even stronger which i didnt believe was possible, my parents did the same thing but this time i was 18 and old enough to know that im making the right choice. I talked to my parents and told them that i dont want to rebel against them or fight with them, but that i love this guy and he’s a genuine guy, he wants to meet them and he’ll respect them if theyll give him a chance. and it worked out.
My parents are stricter but regardless, the advice im giving you is to be patient, at 15 I thought it was certain that i would end up with the other guy, and i was mature for my age so I really believed that my feelings were the same. But that wasnt true, i was very mature at 15 but my emotions were still young.
This guy is willing to wait for you so my advice is wait hun, if youre feelings are the same when youre older then you’ll be together again and you can look forward to that day, let that keep you going. for me i relied on the hope of that until one day i didnt need to, and i grew up a lot because i gave myself time and space.
I hope this helps =)
goodluck xxx