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Having sex for the first time
My boyfriend really wants to have sex, but I don’t think I’m ready. We’ve been going out for about 6 months, but I’m only 16 and even though lots of girls my age are having sex, I just don’t know if I should yet. He says he loves me but I feel like he is really pressuring me and I don’t like it. I don’t want him to break up with me though. Any suggestions?
If you feel he’s pressuring you it’s probably because he IS. He’s probably a great guy, and I’m sure he doesn’t realise that he’s putting you in this situation… which is why you need to tell him. Explain to him that even though you love him, you just don’t feel ready for a sexual relationship yet.
Don’t rush into it
It’s important for your relationship as well as your own well-being that you don’t rush into this. If you let your boyfriend rush you into having sex you will end up resenting him, even if he doesn’t realise that he’s pushing you into it!! I think the best way to deal with this is to just sit down and talk to him face-to-face and heart-to-heart. If he really does love you, then he’s going to want to know how you’re really feeling! Also, remember that just because lots of other 16 year old girls are having sex, doesn’t mean you have to too. I know a guy who’s 20, still a virgin, and happy as can be about it – he’s just waiting for the right girl to come along. Sarah xx
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If he’s pressuring you don’t do it. Virginity is like a bubble one prick and it’s gone forever, you should definitely wait till you are comfortable to do it with someone you love and who you feels exactly how you feel. If he really liked you for who you were he would wait till you felt the same way. Rushing into things like this is not the right way. The consequences are for life. Posted by POWERBALLIN25 "on" 08/14 "at"07:30 PM |
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say No, if he respects you he will understamd Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/12 "at"10:31 PM |
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A very good advice from Sarah, I say. I know the answer sounds as if it’s a cliche, but she’s absolutely right. Rushing into things sexually just because you want to keep your bf, or make HIM happy almost always ends up being a disaster. People say that guys love to have sex and girls have sex to be loved or show that they love. This is not always right, yes, there are guys who are nice and decent however that doesn’t mean they should pressure you to do things that you are not certain about. Having sex with your partner is a very, very special thing and potentially be dangerous if shared with many people. So please consider the matter very seriously and be firm in your belief about whom you would like to share such intimate act with. If your bf respects you and cares for you he should understand  Posted by 47611 "on" 06/11 "at"08:11 PM |
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I reckon you should wait until you feel 100% ready. Just tell him nicely. Tell him when he isn’t in the ‘mood’ coz he’s less likely to be hurt coz the emotions wont be as wild… if you get what I mean. Just have a chat, and if he’s truly a nice dude, hopefully he’ll respect that. It is definately a big deal, so dont let it off easy. Plus, if you guys can be honest to eachother and communicate well it builds trust, which in turn builds the relationship. Good luck. x Posted by Nade92 "on" 05/14 "at"08:35 PM |
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Never let anyone pressure you it is your body at the end of the day and if you don’t want to then it is ok to say NO if they break up with you cause your not like the other girls then thats fine at the end of the day you have saved yourself from a whole lot of other complications like STI’s HIV even pregnancy and you still have your self control you go girl stick to what you believe is right for you. Posted by sarita "on" 05/14 "at"02:43 PM |
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