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Should I date my best friend?
Q. I like my best guy friend, and he likes me too. He thinks we should start dating, but all my other friends say it’s a bad idea because it could risk our friendship if we break up. I really like him and I do want to go out with him, but I don’t want to lose him as a friend if something goes wrong. What should I do?
A. The truth is, it will only risk your friendship if you allow it to. I know plenty of couples who have remained close friends after their break-ups, simply because they did not allow any hard feelings to remain after they parted ways. There might be a period where you don’t hang out for a while to let the dust settle of course, but the point is - friendships can survive break-ups!
In the end, you just have to do what feels right. Sit down and weigh up the pros and cons of getting into a relationship with this guy. Remember that, even though you have a lot to lose, you also have a lot to gain by giving this relationship a go. The fact you already know each other as friends is actually a pretty big advantage over most couples who start dating - you know this guy, might have had the opportunity to see how he’s acted in other relationships, and know who he is when his girlfriend isn’t around (it’s worth noting that if he’s been a horrible boyfriend to other people, there’s a good chance those dynamics will replace your fantastic friendship dynamic at some point!)
I personally think the fact you already know each other as friends and still want to take things to the next level is a good sign! Things will only get messy if you both let them get that way - hopefully you care enough about each other as friends to treat each other with love and respect even if things don’t work out romantically.
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I have been put in this situation before, ruining a friendship is a big deal, I decided that a heap of happiness dating him would way out the cons of breaking up with him, we dated for over a year, it was the best year of my life and guess what, we are still best friends, im 15 we had our moments of just feeling like not being around eachother when we did things with our firends that we used to do as a couple, I think us making the effort to be together has made our relationship 100% stronger, he saw me at my worst , he saw me at my best and he made me happy, the key to everything is happiness, make sure if you decide to go out with him, that you communicate your feelings dont shy away because you were good friends, he likes you for you so dont hide one side he hasnt seen before, if you didnt go there would you regret it ? No regrets babygirl, do what makes you happy and if your friends really were good friends, they willl support you 110%. Good Luck ! Posted by swagger27 "on" 11/16 "at"03:07 PM |
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They always say to be friend first. You have that bond, go for it!! Posted by Bedge "on" 11/10 "at"06:35 PM |
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That fact that you like each other has already changed things so just go with your gut, you have alot to lose either way but only one option can you gain anything. Posted by Bedge "on" 11/10 "at"06:34 PM |
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GO FOR IT!!!!! You only live once so live to the fullest! if you really are true and best friends a break up shouldn’t damage that! Posted by Georgia-Rose "on" 11/09 "at"09:20 PM |
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im not sure about it. . me and my guy mate are really close and i would really hate to not have that closeness that we do at the moment if we went out and then broke up. Posted by clairey "on" 11/05 "at"09:28 AM |
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Go for it, I had the same situation and totally regret not going for it as now me and the guy aren’t as friendly as we were but we still close, but the great thing is you both know each other really well, know things you both enjoy doing and talking about plus you already can trust him, which is a bonus. So go for it, and if it doesn’t work out you can go back to being friends. Posted by 45435 "on" 11/02 "at"05:38 PM |
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i fully agree , your best friend is such a good person to have a relationship with , they know you for you and accept you good and bad , and if it really is a good friendship then if you were to break up you should be able to keep that friendship . even if he is your boyf he should still be your best friend . try it out ! (: Posted by kelsiyum! "on" 10/17 "at"08:25 PM |
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I ended up dating my best friend and it was one of the best relationships I’ve ever had. Unfortunately it didn’t work out for us. It is hard to switch from the romantic relationship back to friendship, but it is possible! Posted by Christy Rose "on" 10/14 "at"03:08 PM |
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Being best friends is already a good start as it provides a good platform already. You should consider going out with him if you both have feelings for each other, who knows, it could turn out to be something amazing. Take risks, take chances, take opportunities and live life with no regrets. All the best! Posted by MazLee "on" 10/09 "at"01:56 PM |
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I think its better if you go out with your best friend rather than going out with some random guy you just like. As best friends you guys knw each other in and out and you obviously like what you see in him hence you being best friends. So going out with him will be that much special and you guys are bound to last long! Posted by Cathy Minaj "on" 10/07 "at"10:26 PM |
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Go for it!! I’ve seen this happen before with best friends having feelings for one another and then deciding to do nothing and a couple of months later, one of them has moved on and the other is sitting there going “why didn’t I go for it when they were keen?” and they really regret it. and oddly - the pair that i know who this happened to, aren’t that close any more and I kinda reckon they would be better friends than they are now if they had ended up dating.
something you have to remember of course is that friendships come and go, and if you are meant to be friends afterwards (if there is an afterwards, who knows!) then you will be cause you’ll both make it happen Posted by Dee-Great "on" 10/07 "at"09:46 PM |
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Definitely give it a go, I’ve seen best friends date and become even better as a couple because they knew each others flaws and were OK with them and so were able to accept and love each other better because of that! Posted by Rkp "on" 10/06 "at"10:30 PM |
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Dating your bestfriend can be hard but if he really is worth it and you two break up and things become awkward, then maybe he wasn’t exactly your bestfriend after all. Bestfriends are suppose to be able to get over fights, awkwardness and sadness, and that should be no different  Posted by jordanalexis "on" 10/04 "at"07:11 PM |
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well… if you like him and he likes you then why not but before you go into this (if you do) tell him that you still want to be best mates if this doesn’t work out.
Bri! xx Posted by Bri123 "on" 02/15 "at"08:37 PM |
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youll never know unless you try Posted by pluto "on" 02/05 "at"05:11 PM |
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I think that if you guys both think its appropriate go for it, but know the consequences and talk about it. If the relationship doesn’t work out, there’s always a possibility that you guys can remain friends. Take risks it may pay off in the end. Posted by POWERBALLIN25 "on" 08/14 "at"10:12 AM |
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Never have regrets! Posted by Xxc0rtxX "on" 08/12 "at"05:54 PM |
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