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Problems being a middle child
I’m a middle child in a family of three and I feel like my older sister and younger brother get way more attention than me. I’m the hardest-working in the family and achieve really well but my parents still seem to take more notice of the others. I’m starting to feel like I should slack off because nobody notices.
Woah! Don’t slack off! Sure, that’ll get you attention, but for all the wrong reasons. I know your feeling let down, and you have every right to. However you have to remember that your parents are only human. I’m guessing the reason they’re not paying you as much attention is for exactly the reasons you’ve told me – you’re the hardest-working, your smart and independent. I’m guessing that although it feels like your parents are ignoring your achievements, they’re actually taking them into consideration by the way they treat you.
They think they’re doing the right thing
Your parents are probably giving you less attention because they don’t feel you need as much attention as your siblings. They’re trying to share their attention out evenly, and they think that by giving more attention to your siblings (who I’m guessing aren’t quite as clever as you) they’re doing the right thing. They probably assume that you are more able to be independent than your siblings, if you get me?
Give them some feedback
Parents aren’t mind readers, nor are they professional. You don’t automatically become an awesome parent the day you have a baby. They’re doing what they think is best for the situation, so if you think it isn’t what they should be doing – just tell them! Everyone needs a bit of feedback to do a good job, and parents are no different. Have a chat with them next time your siblings aren’t around and tell them how you’re feeling. Your parents probably haven’t even realised that you feel this way. Good luck, and well done with your studies!! Keep going! Sarah xx
There is a guy at my school - he used to stare at me and act nervous whenever I was nearby and would show me a lot of attention. He broke the ice by chatting to me, but I’m shy and I get nervous sometimes, so he seemed disappointed after the conversation. A couple of weeks ago I said “Hi,” but he ignored me like he was annoyed with me so I thought I must have done something wrong to make him do that. A week later he walked past at lunch and I said “If I’ve done something to upset you, I’m sorry.” Anyway, he called me up last week and we started chatting and then he asked for my mobile number and e-mail address. Is he hitting on me? Do shy guys usually make moves on girls they like?
The reason he was annoyed at you was because he mistook your nervousness for rejection. He probably assumed that your lack of conversation was because you weren’t interested in him. By the sounds of it he’d been gearing himself to talk to you for quite a while, so when you didn’t respond as well as he’d hoped, he felt pretty gutted. When you told him that you didn’t mean to upset him, of course he was happy! Now he knows that there’s still hope for him, and that there’s a good chance you ARE interested. It takes a lot of courage for a guy to make the first move.
What do you have to lose?
The flirty glances are exactly what you think they are - FLIRTING. This guy likes you! As you said; he’s shy, so he doesn’t want to give you those smoldering ten second stares. Take it as a compliment! He’s put himself on the line, now it’s YOUR turn. If you do want this guy you’re going to have to be a little bit more forward. You know he likes you, what do you have to lose? xx Sarah
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